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Greetings Sis!!

How are you? If today’s issue made you want to go deeper into God, don’t keep it yourself.

Forward it to ONE other Sis who you know is grappling with divorce due to addiction, the betrayals it brings and the desire to divorce.
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As you know, I’m Dr. Latisha Webb — pastor, behavioral health clinician, educator, coach, and wife.

My purpose carries the authority of Scripture, the insights of psychology, the hope of recovery and the lived experience of a Christian woman who has walked through addiction and the betrayals it brings in my marriage.

And today, I want to help you see how your husband’s relapse — may have caused some cognitive distortion and your role in it — with new clarity.”

I’m integrating 12 Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) cognitive distortions with Scripture, Recovery language, and Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.

This is Part 1 and the first 6 cognitive distortions.

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​The Intersectionality of Scripture, CBT, Recovery Principles & Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs​
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1. All-or-Nothing Thinking

• CBT: Life is seen in extremes (success/failure, good/bad).

• Scripture: “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9, NLT) – God works in the “gray areas,” not just the extremes.

• Recovery Principle: Progress, not perfection. The Big Book reminds us that spiritual growth is gradual.

• Maslow‘s Hierarchy of Needs: Belonging & Esteem – Accepting imperfection allows space for love, forgiveness, and healthier self-worth.
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2. Overgeneralization

• CBT: Drawing sweeping conclusions from one event.

• Scripture: “Though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again.” (Proverbs 24:16, NLT). One failure does not define your future.

• Recovery Principle: One day at a time. Every day is a new chance to make a different choice.

• Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs: Safety – Instills security that each moment is a fresh start.
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3. Mental Filter

• CBT: Magnifying negatives, ignoring positives.

• Scripture: “Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable.” (Philippians 4:8, NLT).

• Recovery Principle: Gratitude lists shift the focus toward what is working, not what is broken.

• Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs: Esteem – Seeing blessings builds confidence and resilience.
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4. Discounting the Positive

• CBT: “That doesn’t count, I just got lucky.”

• Scripture: “Every good and perfect gift is from above.” (James 1:17, NLT).

• Recovery Principle: Celebrate milestones, even small ones – acknowledgment is part of healing.

• Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs: Esteem – Recognizing growth affirms personal value.

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5. Jumping to Conclusions

• CBT: Assuming without evidence.

• Scripture: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding.”(Proverbs 3:5, NLT).

• Recovery Principle: Let go of assumptions; ask questions, share honestly in meetings.

• Maslow‘s Hierarchy of Needs: Love/Belonging – Healthy communication strengthens relationships.

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6. Catastrophizing

• CBT: Expecting the worst possible outcome.

• Scripture: “God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” (2 Timothy 1:7, NLT).

• Recovery Principle: Easy does it. Fear exaggerates; faith brings balance.

• Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs: Safety – Finding stability by trusting God’s provision.

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To learn more about the first 6 cognitive distortions, check out the YouTube video I created.

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Blessings abound upon you 💜

Sis, when you are ready, here’s how I can help:

💍Want help figuring out how to remain married and not get a divorce?

I’ll work with you and other wives to:

• Use your faith to work through any situation
• Forge your personal path to remain a covenant level loyal wife
• Empower you to endure through the hardship as God leads
• Support you in deepening your commitment to God and your marriage
• Leave a legacy of love and loyalty for the future

If you want private, exclusive community support from me, not just the strategy, then REPLY,

​COACH ME, SIS to schedule a Clarity Call.

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